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Beaumont Society cock up February 17, 2012

Filed under: trans stuff — eclectic chicken @ 7:45 pm
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There’s been a huge hoohah over the last few days about ‘the first pregnant man in the uk”…. I’m not going to rehash whats happened to date… its all over the gay/trans press and the real low down is on Jane’s blog as she’s pretty much been at the front of this story.

What I am going to have a rant about is the ‘so called apology’ from the Beaumont Society.

The Beaumont Society for those who don’t live within the walls of trans politics is an organisation that started about 45 years or so ago…. around the same time as Monty Python…. in fact one could well have inspired the other. It did and still does sterling work, mostly with the cross dressing and transvestite end of the trans spectrum. It probably does help the odd transsexual on their journey but from my own experience of the organisation (the Women of the Beaumont Society forum) I’d say any one suspecting they have a dose of transsexuality should stay well clear…. in fact just stay clear… the forum is private. For partners only (none trans partners) and some would say what goes on in there is transphobic.

They’d say that…becuase it is.

Its where the wives of cross dressers mostly go to vent… tell each other how often they cut up their husbands clothes and get encouraged to insist their husbands only do it every other Wednesday (the Wednesday they are not allowed to dress at home is usually the day they nip off to a club to dress as a sissy maid becuase their wife doesn’t understand them).

Anyway…. its not somewhere that suited me as a partner who didn’t want to just ‘tolerate’ but to try and accept.

It’s not an organisation that interested Jane in transition either as she had no real desire to mix with a load of cross dressers who just wanted to compare chicken fillets and talk about football.

Each to their own…. and whereas I can see the reason for sticking ‘that’ and of the spectrum in with ‘this’ end of the spectrum…. becuase its a journey and some people need to be ‘here’ and ‘there’ at some point along the way.

But anyway…. the remit of the Beaumont Society is fairly narrow in reality whilst tipping its trilby to the more ‘political hot potato’ of the TQI’s. They claim not to dabble in what they don’t know… but pass on to other organisations.

Right….Here’s an apology posted on Trans media Watches wall on facebook (yeah…right…. a VERY public place)

[from here on in you will have to be up on the story or it just won’t make sense]

“With regard to articles written in the press recently quoting the Beaumont Society as the source.
The Beaumont Society has no knowledge of the identity of the individual who is the subject of the articles, and the Society is not the source of any personal details about the subject of the article.
Within the last two years, an Officer of the Society, whilst on a local helpline, has responded to an anonymous call from a female to male transsexual, apparently making enquiries about the possibilities of bearing a child, even though the caller claimed to have undergone female to male treatment.
Callers details are neither asked for or recorded by those operating the Helpline, except if they are requesting written information.
In this case, the Caller was referred to GIRES.
The Officer has since been contacted by the Press, but only confirmed that she had had an anonymous enquiry and then a follow up call, some time later, again anonymously, saying that she had been most helpful and that the person concerned had successfully borne a child.
The Executive Committee of the Beaumont Society apologises for any distress that may have been caused to members of the Transgender Community, by the confusion that this story has created in the media.
The Trustee’s in light of this incident are reviewing our information line policy and the training of volunteers to ensure the integrity of our service and protection of the community we serve
The Society remains committed to the help and advancement of the interests of all Transgendered individuals where ever they stand on the Transgender spectrum.”

What gobsmacks me is that the Beaumont Society think the hoohah about their stupidity, lack of common sense and downright lack of professionalism stems back to a phone call made two years ago…. or six months…

The FUCK UP can be narrowed down to “the officer……confirmed that she had had an anonymous enquiry”.

She ‘confirmed’…. until that point the Sun, the Times, The Mail had NO story…. until the ‘rumour’ of a uk pregnant trans man was CONFIRMED by a well established transgender charity. Not even by a member of their volunteer phone staff caught on the hop but a member of their executive who had a pre-arranged phone interview with a member of the press.

How fucking stupid.

Even more stupid is they still don’t see that its that ONE thing that they need to apologise for to every trans man in the country who is fearing a knock at the door or a pointing finger at work or in the street.

The only CONFIRMED… they didn’t give anyone details – no… nobody said you did Janett… if you’d given details the Sun wouldn’t have a national hotline number.

You just CONFIRMED the story to set the whole three ring circus rolling.

i know everyone is starting to move on and look at lessons to be learned about help lines and data protection… but if that apology is the best the Beaumont Society Executive can come up with… if they really think all they did was ‘CONFIRM’ the story… then they are an organisation who have no place in looking after the best interests of some of the most vulnerable members of our society.

As a social network for people who want to dress as women and talk about ladies things they do sterling work but as a political force or as a voice of the wider transgender community they just don’t pass muster.

 

8 Responses to “Beaumont Society cock up”

  1. […] dear. I suspected she was up to something…and this evening the result is up and out there. andrea (*aka the “eclectic chicken) has been cogitating over the Beaumont Soc since the news […]

  2. I am sure they did get their “cock up” but in another way.

    I unfortunately married one not knowing he was a transvestite who I am sure now calls himself transgender. He thought I would understand because I was born transsexual. He thought wrong since we had an immediate divorce.

    Transvestites are greedy, needy, pushy, and relentless little worms. If you give them an inch they will take a foot. Give them a foot and they will take a yard. Let them dress on Wednesday at home and soon it will be Mondays and then soon it will be when they are home and soon their wardrobe will dwarf yours because after all playing girl requires more than being a girl.

    Good luck with your transvestite. My luck was getting rid of him.

    • eclectic chicken Says:

      I don’t have a transvestite… but thankyou for the demonstration of the sort of wobtastic venom doled out against transvestites by their partners.

      • I did not ask to be married to a transvestite and it is not venom it is a simple statement of fact. He knew about me from early on and like most little men wearing women’s cloths he deceived me because I told him early on I was the only one wearing Dior in our relationship and he assured me he was not a transvestite.

        Pathetic little worms the whole bunch.

    • Carka Says:

      You sound like a horrible person.

  3. Jenny Says:

    I can’t fault your criticism of that rather mealy-mouthed apology, or of the whole ghastly cock-up. They need to review their media policy, who they talk to, what they talk about, and what they should and should not say. And heads probably need to roll.

    And for obvious reasons I can’t comment on the WOBS experience.

    But I feel I must defend the BS on one count, because I feel an unfair stereotype is being allowed to dominate the way they are viewed.

    They are the only nationally organised support group of their kind, and as such they support everybody in the trans sphere, from the PVC-clad French Maids through to the inconspicuous transitioners. At a local level, low profile, week-in, week-out, there will be Beaumont-run support groups and Beaumont regional organisers out there in the village halls, community centres, pub function rooms and wherever there are local trans support groups doing what they excel at, which is helping real trans people at a difficult time of their lives. This is the here-and-now Beaumont Society that I recognise, not the stereotype of what they might have been decades ago. It’s not glamorous look-at-me trans activism, in fact a lot of it is deeply unglamorous and pretty thankless. But without it the life of a hell of a lot of British trans people would be made a lot more difficult.

    But sadly because they also cater for the more er… flamboyant end of the spectrum, it’s far easier for those who haven’t taken the time to see what they’re really about to think of them as an organisation for the weekend maids, schoolgirls or brides, and nothing else. Because as I’m sure the editor of the Sun would agree, there’s nothing like a good stereotype to make a story.

    • eclectic chicken Says:

      fair point Jenny…. maybe all the more reason for groups to ‘stick to their knitting’… the Beaumont Society do the grassroots network thing brilliantly for those that that format suits. And I guess like a lot of grassroots organisations theres a lot of smoke and mirrors happening to make a small number of hard grafting members look like a national organisation. Its sometimes hard to find enough members to take up public facing positions, ot to be able to talk with knowledge and tact on behalf of the organisation.

      i think thats where the BS failed big time here…. the officer involved should never have been let loose on the press. And the aftermath which seems to be mostly orchestrated on facebook by Janett isn’t much more savvy.

      • Jenny Says:

        Again, can’t disagree. I guess anyone who’s worked for a large company or organisation should be used to the idea of having a single point of press contact, to whom everyone else is on a three-line-whip to refer *all* enquirers.


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