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couldn’t have been much worse…. February 19, 2010

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I may have sold my soul to the devil (see last blog) but at least I havn’t given it to the Catholic Church.

Jane defrocked yesterday and went to see her parish priest.

It wasn’t good.

She went in to ask about being herself when she goes to church (its the last place she wears mens clothes for) and came out in deep doodoo for living in sin.

Not being of a religious bent i can’t personally grasp the magnitude of being barred from communion….but I know its a huge deal for Jane….she cares enough about her faith for me to allow our son to be christened in the Catholic church.

We’ve now entered some mad conundrum about sin and sex  and all manner of stuff.

I’ve been led by John into a certain view of the Catholic church…a fairly libertarian, easy going version that has a lot in common with eastern philosophies.

A version solidified by the last pope….the nice polish geezer. And our last parish priest….a lovely old Irish priest who wouldn’t have stood out a mile on Craggy Island and who would I’m sure have seen the irony in himself a man in a frock needing to deal with Jane, a man in a frock.

The outcome would have been the same as it was from the present incumbent a missionary from Kenya… but it may have been done in a more personable way.

So now….i’m the bringer of sin….my son the product of sin…and Jane in a sinful relationship…. its not great.

Mostly it can be sorted…with time…an annulment…a marriage (in the church)….

that doesn’t cover the debate to be had about whether we’ll be able to have sex…and if we arent considered able to have sex…does that make what we have now less sinful….we’re in a catch22 situation.

What a tangled web we weave.

I don’t do god….i could do religion, the sense of belonging, the community feel…even the comfort of ritual but my literal brain can’t manage the belief bit.

But if i did believe in god….i couldn’t be doing with a god who apparantly can’t accept a lovely, gentle, good person like Jane for who she is.


3 Responses to “couldn’t have been much worse….”

  1. spirifer Says:

    Don’t judge the Church by the actions of one priest, though. When Peter and I wanted to marry, our priest (who, to be fair, is not exactly cut out for parish priest life – an academic who was forced out into his present role when the seminary where he taught closed) was incredibly supportive.

    We had both been married before (although not in the eyes of the Church) and were ‘living in sin’, but our priest let us have a full Church wedding, and there was never a murmur of any disapproval from anyone at the Church.

    I’m not arrogant enough to claim to know the mind of God, but I cannot believe that his son, who identified with the suffering and oppressed, would turn away ‘a lovely, gentle, good person like Jane’.

  2. S. Says:

    “And our last parish priest….a lovely old Irish priest who wouldn’t have stood out a mile on Craggy Island and who would I’m sure have seen the irony in himself a man in a frock needing to deal with Jane, a man in a frock.”

    I loved this man dearly and I just wanted to say there’s no way anybody could possible know how he would have handled this situation, as he’s no longer here to explain himself.
    And to be accepted yourselves particularly amongst our parishioners, it’s probably best not to stereotype the Irish.

    • eclectic chicken Says:

      My apologies S. if you thought there was anything at all negative in either my attitude to Fr.B. or the Irish en masse. If its a stereo-type its based on a great respect for the intellect, humour and personable nature of someone i only met a few times and those traits are things i’ve long admired in just about every Irish person i’ve ever spent time with. Most of whom think ‘Father Ted’ was a fair enough and fond caricaturisation of the Irish priesthood.

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